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As with any information published on this site, please remember that it is not to take the place of advice or consultation from a proper physician or medical provider. But most importantly, remember that scientists, researchers and medical institutions have not spent a great deal of time or money studying our community, and knowledge about the gay male body is growing almost daily.
Because, as gay males, we both have dicks and want dicks, we have an interesting relationship with this particular body part. This situation has given an otherwise rather common appendage a greater community standing. Despite this, little scientific research has been conducted on our personal feelings about size, function and usage.
In addition to this, our individual and community views of the male member are slanted by our ability to sexually interact with, and view (via porn), the dicks of other men. But, most of all, the lack of proper sexual education in the North American school system—and none regarding gay male sex—leaves many guys with misinformation about their first best friend.
1. The Shaft, also known as the “body”, where blood flows to obtain and maintain an erection.
2. The Foreskin, filled with thousands of highly erogenous nerve endings.
3. The Glans (short for “glans penis”), the somewhat conical thick bulbous tip, which is covered by the foreskin.
4. The Meatus (three syllables me-a-tus, not meat-us), the vertical slit located at the end of the glands.
Inside of your penis, the urethra is the basic exit tube for urine release and ejaculation. Opening out at your meatus, this is the final part of the urinary tract.
Some guys have thicker and larger glans, others a thinner spear-shaped head. You may have a thick shaft at the base which thins as it approaches the glans, or a helmet head atop a thick cylindrical shaft. From red, to pink and even purple, the glans can have many shades and even brighten with age, before growing paler after the age of 50. When you factor in the controversial procedure of circumcision of the foreskin, which itself may be long or short, tight or loose, you get an amazing spectrum of penis types to choose from. And this is all very normal.
The more important question to ask is, “Does my penis look healthy?”
The complex landscape of the penis can create fertile ground for skin conditions to develop. Noninfectious penile blemishes (which are medically referred to as lesions) are not common, but may still be a serious concern for some of you. These begin as little red bumps or even a dry rash forming around the cock corona or along the shaft of your dick. Some of these lesions are more common in guys with circumcised cocks because of the lack of covering over the glans, which can create dry, itchy skin flakes. Due to genetics, other skin irritations and distortions are more common in white men than in men of color.
As always, if you notice any severe or long lasting changes to your genitals, including swelling, bumps, bruises, bleeding or non-cum milky discharges, you should immediately consult your physician.
Despite the overwhelming influence of heredity, many a man is still looking for a way to permanently increase his inheritance of the family jewels. Penis pumps, saline injections, and cockrings produce only temporary effects, and surgery has proven not to be worth the money and pain only for an increase in girth, but not substantial or even noticeable length. The trick is to learn to not only live with what you got, but love it, and make the most of it.
These findings were confirmed in 2006 by a Dutch Study at Utrecht University by Liesbeth Woertman, a psychologist, sexologist and senior lecturer in clinical psychology. Surveying 251 gay men (average age 29), she also found that “how a gay man views his penis, has a considerable influence on how they view themselves”. On the whole, her subjects viewed having a large dick as ideal, and that their penises were the most attractive part of their bodies.
Germany performs the largest amount of penis enlargement surgeries in the world, as reported by the International Society for Aesthetic Plastic Surgery, performing 2,786 of the estimated 15,414, or 18% of enlargements worldwide.
A man’s penis size will vary with age, the time of day, his mental/emotional state, room and water temperature and, of course, with the amount of sexual arousal. The human cock has two major growth spurts beginning between the ages of one to five years of age, and, as expected, during puberty. Most men will have achieved their full adult erect length and girth just before the end of puberty (around 17 to18). A few new studies show a very slight decrease in penis length with age, but more research is needed for confirmation. There is no statistically significant correlation between the size of a man’s penis and his hands, feet, nose, ears, fingers (any of them) or any other body part. So, stop searching for guys wearing size 11 shoes or extra-large gloves.
Dicks are usually darker in skin tone than the rest of their owners’ bodies.
Leonardo da Vinci once noted: “A man who is ashamed to show or name the penis is wrong. Instead of being anxious to hide it, man ought to display it”.
“A previous study found men exaggerate by anywhere from one to 1.7 inches. This new report includes a 2010 study from New York that had men self-report, then actually measured them and compared. Here is what they found:
If you enjoy being the receptive partner during anal sex, most of this does not matter, as your prostate (or G spot) is located just at the top of your anal canal, which is roughly 2 inches long. Also the most sensitive part of the anus is the first 1.5 inches or so. It takes only 2.5 inches of hard cock, or tongue, to get the job done!