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Don’t call them masturbators! That’s an insult to the hard work and effort they put into their chosen craft.

Every guy wanks off, no matter what they say. We do it and we know that you do it. For most of us it’s a more practical activity and doesn’t replace any sexual acts with other guys. To be very clear, masturbation is very normal, natural and healthy. But, Solo-Sexuals are the Jedi Masters of masturbation and we are merely Padawans.

There is so much we can learn from them.

What is a Solo-Sexual?

Almost all of us were born into and raised in a world that’s totally against male masturbation. The United States even started a “healthcare” movement involving male genital mutilation (circumcision) aimed at stopping the practice in young boys and in the process also birthed a breakfast craze that has spanned the world.

In males, jerking off is considered to be dirty, disgusting, a sin against god and nature as well as any other negative association one could think of. But in reality it’s one of the best solo activities you can do for yourself and your overall health and well being.

Masturbation allows you to get in touch with your body, learn what sexual acts you enjoy and which you don’t. You learn how to give pleasure to yourself, which you will one day share with your partners. Because we are gay males, the feelings and sensations we learn about our own bodies can quickly become techniques we use successfully with our partners in the future.

Those who call themselves Solo Sexuals have learned how to shed the concerns of shame and embarrassment around this activity and lean into the joy it causes them.

Simply put, a Solo Sexual is a guy how knows how to jerk off with abandon and bring himself to the heights of physical pleasure, without guilt or humiliation.

Solo sexing is much more than a quick jerk before work. It is about reaching greater heights than a basic fast release in-between sexual partners. It’s about understanding that you are your own sexual partner and that is more than good enough!

The Advocate Magazine explored this topic and came up with 13 solo sexual activities you need to try. These may seem basic and even childish at first but they can be the entry point to a new understanding and connection with your body.

Once you have mastered these basic techniques, you’re ready to move onto the big leagues of wanking!


We admit to not knowing the complete structural hierarchy of the masturbatory world, if there even is one, but we are familiar with the group of guys who call themselves GOONERS.

A Gooner is a guy who practices the fine art of GOONING.

Gooning” may be most simply defined as that state usually achieved after a prolonged edging session, when a man becomes completely hypnotized by the feeling radiating his penis. Since a gooning state can only be achieved after edging, the man’s dick will have become mightily aroused at this point and every caress the male genitals are subjected to will trigger potent elation. As the man keeps edging and thus keeps experiencing intense pleasure, he enters a state of trance where his mind intimately merges with his cock : the gooning state, where he and his dick become one.

 To be even more accurate, when the gooning state is achieved, the man’s body becomes for all intents and purposes an appendage to his erection. When this state is achieved, the male becomes freed of all social codes of conduct, and his arousal, alone, dictates his reactions. As a result, a gooned out man will become very expressive and demonstrative : he may become very vocal, while his body and face might take on undignified expressions and poses, all in response to the intensely exquisite caresses his penis is exposed to. Hence the term “goon”, since at this point the man effectively looks like a silly, foolish, or eccentric person.

Gooning is not a narcissistic manifestation. Narcissism is extreme selfishness, with a grandiose view of one’s own talents. Rather, gooning is closer to a meditation experience, where the mind and the body align, focused on a single thought (or feeling, in this case.

The holy grail of Gooning is called “Gooning Out:

Gooning out is a point during masturbation where you start to lose control and revert to a Neanderthal goon tard, often after hitting poppers or smoking an insane amount of weed. The pleasure becomes so intense that your eyes roll back, your mouth opens into an “O”, and you’re either panting, grunting, making monkeybate sounds or babbling about how good your penis feels.

What is Edging?

We need to take a step back from Gooning for a moment to discuss a focal point of the gooning experience which is called edging. If you want to become a full fledged gooning master or just learn to have better sex with yourself, partners or both, learning how to ride the edge is a great technique you should familiarize yourself with.

Getting seconds away from climax and stopping, waiting for a few more seconds then start again, do this a few more times then you are meant to have a amazing long climax and you feel great.

Being able to properly edge is necessary to be a Gooner, but every guy could use a few tips in how to stave off an orgasm. If you would like to view an adult oriented tutorial video on how to edge, containing male nudity and erections, click HERE


Yes, most guys are able to have solo, coupled and even group sex without drugs but many in our community combine the two to maximize the pleasures of both. At GMJ, we take a harm reduction approach to drugs and are clear in our distinctions between usage and abuse. Almost everyone in the world that has ever done drugs falls into the user category. Only a very small percentage become actual drug abusers. With this being said, if you or someone you know has a problem with drugs, with or without sex, please seek out assistance from a medical professional as soon as possible.


The drug of choice for many dedicated Gooners and Solo Sexuals is marijuana. There are very few studies regarding cannabis usage and sex. For that matter, because the plant is considered to be a Class I drug in the United States, there is almost no true reliable studies on it at all, for any usage. Most studier rely upon self reporting.. But we do know some things about it that may explain why it’s a go-to drug for this group and many others..

Cannabis is a vasodilator (meaning it opens blood vessels and increases blood flow), Dr. Tishler explains. It has direct effects on the cannabinoid receptors in the skin and nerve pathways that are involved in perceiving pain. It can also affect some higher order functions, including memory and feelings of fear and anxiety.

And it’s easy to see how all of those effects could contribute to better sex for some people, but we still don’t have a full, conclusive understanding of what cannabis is doing physiologically in the context of sex. “There are just theories on why this works,” Dr. Lynn says. “There’s really no definitive answer.”

There is some research that suggests the amount of marijuana consumed affects the experience. In one study, 59% of users thought that sexual pleasure was enhanced after smoking one joint. Less than half (39%), however, thought that consuming more than one joint provided further enhancement. In addition, large doses of marijuana have been used as a sexual depressant in India.

It is not clear if marijuana consumption affects the quality of orgasms. Just over half of male consumers reported that it enhanced their orgasms In a small study published in 1979 of 84 graduate students, the majority of which were men, those who reported being “experienced smokers” believed that it increased the intensity of an orgasm and should be considered an aphrodisiac. A number of more recent studies do suggest orgasms are improved with marijuana use, however.

Studies on marijuana consumption’s effects on sex have shown little other significant physical improvements. Masters and Johnson completed a five year long study in 1979, with a sample size of 800 men and 500 women whose ages ranged between 18 and 30 years old. In this study, men reported no improvements in maintaining erections or an increase of penile firmness.

A more recent study in 2017 in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, looked at data from the large nationally representative National Survey of Family Growth and included more than 28,000 women and nearly 23,000 men. It reviewed survey responses on how frequently they had consumed marijuana and had sex in the four weeks prior to the survey. Men who consumed marijuana daily reported having sex 6.9 times on average compared to 5.6 times in those men who never consumed it.

There has also been some evidence of negative effects on marijuana use on sex. Some studies show a correlation between chronic marijuana use and reduced testosterone levels in men. Furthermore, it has been found that heavy use of marijuana decreases the sperm count of healthy men. This reduction in sperm count can be reversed. Chronic use of marijuana is also linked to a decrease in sexual performance, while increasing sexual


Popper Dong:

The second most common product/drug that is associated with solo sexual play is poppers. Our community has a long and rich history with this inhalant. It is known to provide a great deal of pleasure because it opens  blood vessels, increases blood flow, and frequently reduces blood pressure while increasing heart rate. Users often report getting a dizzying ‘head-rush’, a sort of high in other words. Poppers work very quickly, producing an almost instant “rush” of warm sensations and feelings of dizziness, similar to sensations of extreme alcohol intoxication. The effects come on very quickly after inhaling the drug, but unlike drugs such as alcohol, only last for seconds or minutes.

Poppers give the user a feeling of relaxation mentally and physically, increased sexual arousal, makes anal sex easier and less painful, due to the relaxation of the anal sphincter. For this reason, poppers are sometimes (LOTS OF TIMES) used to facilitate anal sex. In addition, some users find that using poppers during sex increases sexual sensations and intensifies orgasms. Even though some users prefer to perform sexually with them, they are not addictive.

Popper Dong specifically refers to the look and feeling your penis takes after a long period of use combined with long term edging. The surface of you cock becomes very sensitive as the blood vessels rise to the surface, and can take on deep reddish colour.

This level of heightened sensitivity increases the act of masturbation and can cause one to get stoopid on his penis.

Getting Stoopid on Penis:

Solo sexuals and those who call themselves Gooners create a unique bond between themselves and their penis. It goes beyond just touching, stroking and ejaculation. Many speak of becoming entranced with their cocks, lose all track of time as well as the need for food and liquids. In effect, they get stoopid on penis. Their terms, not ours.

Masturbation Addiction

Everything in moderation should be a mantra for every man. Even the pleasure gained through masturbation can become addictive.

The term “masturbation addiction” is used to refer to a tendency to excessively or compulsively masturbate. There’s some debate around whether you can truly be “addicted” to masturbation.

Although there’s been a push to medically recognize masturbation addiction, some say it should be recognized as a compulsion, not an addiction.

There’s no clinical diagnosis for masturbation addiction. It’s not recognized as addictive by the American Psychological Association (APA).

Masturbation addiction also isn’t recognized as a mental health condition by the recent edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), which sets the criteria for diagnosing mental health conditions.

The following scenarios, for example, may be signs of a masturbation compulsion:

  • Masturbating takes up a lot of your time and energy.
  • Your home, work, or personal life is suffering because of masturbation.
  • You might be late to meetings, cancel events, or leave social appointments early to masturbate.
  • You masturbate in public or in uncomfortable places because you can’t wait to get home.
  • You masturbate even when you don’t feel aroused, sexual, or “horny.”
  • When you feel negative emotions — such as anger, anxiety, stress, or sadness — your go-to response is to masturbate for comfort.
  • You feel guilty, distressed, or upset after masturbating.
  • You masturbate even if you don’t want to.
  • You find it difficult to stop thinking about masturbation.

If you want to stop masturbating — or if you want to masturbate less — you may find it helpful to talk to a therapist.

Final Thoughts

Masterbation is something that we collectivly need to normalize. There are some great benefits to the individual but we would argue those quickly carry over to those we have sexual relations with later. Solo Sex is sex and should be viewed as such. Even though some believe that only engaging in masturbation is harmful the other side of that coin is the gay “lifestyle”.

We have created a complex dating and sexual system that is difficult for most guys to navigate. So it is not surprising that some decide to check out inside of logging on. Also, anal sex is not for every one. Some guys are tops, some guys enjoy bottoming, versatile guys really do exist, other dudes are sides and some guys are very happy Solo Sexuals.

No one can tell you if this is the right choice for you or not. As long as you still have a healthy and full overall life, away from your left hand, PENIS YOUR PENIS!

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